I was born in post World War II Germany and raised by two traumatized and emotionally wounded parents. My mother had to learn to cut off her emotions as a young girl and my father dealt with his war trauma by drinking. My mother loved me but was unable to tune in to her own needs and consequently unable to tune in to mine. I therefore was left to my own devices from an early age on to deal with angst, anxiety, fear and pain. My father was very loving, cuddled with me but was